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Power, Violence and Courage
There is a certain level of numbness that can happen when we hear about yet one more mass shooting or terrorist attack. Overwhelmed with emotions—grief, anger, frustration, helplessness—our system shuts down. Orlando struck particularly close to home for me, both geographically and because this time the setting was a gay bar and the patrons mostly LGBT Latinos. I have been feeling a bit numb these past few days, even after attending a moving vigil in…Read More
Falling In; Facing the Shadow
We can’t Namaste the shadow away. The fall equinox is associated with harvest time and preparing for winter. Spiritually, we in the northern hemisphere can take advantage of this time of shorter days and longer nights as an opportunity to “fall in,” to take a deep dive into ourselves and explore the vast and, for the most part, uncharted territory within. My friend Michael Lennox, an author and astrologer, points to the time between two…Read More
On Earth Day Eve, thank you for all your gifts, Prince!
“Imagine holding Planet Earth In the palm of your hand With no regard for your place of birth Or claim to any land The only thing between us now is the truth we understand If Planet Earth was in the palm of your hand 50 years from now what will they say about us here? Did we care for the water and the fragile atmosphere? There are only 2 kinds of folk And the difference…Read More
Trump, Ego & Power
Like many others, I’ve been trying to wrap my mind around the Trump phenomenon. What is the appeal of someone so offensive and mean-spirited—a self-important, narcissistic bully, a self-aggrandizing, pompous and vulgar loudmouth spewing such chauvinistic, racist and bigoted views? As I see it, Trump has emerged in our collective psyche to offer us all a choice. Not simply a political choice, but a moral one—an evolutionary one. Disappointed with the status quo and fearful…Read More
Navigating Power Plays
When was the last time you got caught up in a power struggle? Who was the other player? A lazy co-worker? A manipulative boss? A controlling spouse or irresponsible teenager? Or perhaps that passive-aggressive customer service representative snagged you after you had to navigate automated voicemail limbo and wait on hold for 20 minutes? Power conflicts can feel like being trapped in a whirlpool of anger, frustration and helplessness that we just can’t seem to…Read More
Sex & Power
Our world is “obsexed,” a bit out of control in this area, to say the least. Sex has been so repressed and demonized that it comes out in unhealthy expressions. In its most extreme and violent forms, the unhealthy expression of sexual and power dynamics show up as rape and sexual abuse, which are clearly more about power than sex. It is interesting that one of the most common verbal expressions of aggression in the…Read More
Better than Sex?!?
Don’t get me wrong. I love sex. And I consider it nothing less than sacred. Before I knew practices like meditation and breathwork, that was the only time my mind would stop. Ego boundaries would collapse and I could experience fleeting moments of oneness with another. Some of the deepest and most connected spiritual experiences I’ve ever had have been during making love. It’s no wonder that the word ecstasy literally means “standing outside of…Read More
Namaste in the Bedroom
For some people, “sacred sexuality” is an oxymoron, an inherent contradiction in terms. And it’s no wonder, given humanity’s religiously-inspired history of making sex wrong. Yet, if you doubt the connection between sexuality and spirituality, just ask yourself: whose name is most commonly invoked at the point of orgasm? Before I was exposed to spiritual practices like meditation and breathwork, the only time my mind would cease its endless chatter was during sex. In those…Read More
What Can I Do?
Many of you know from following my posts on Facebook that my 28 y/o nephew Ralf Garcia was diagnosed with a brain tumor and died ten days later. How does one even begin to make sense of the loss of such a young man, beautiful in every sense of the word, leaving behind his wife and unborn son due in May? The tragedy of Ralf’s passing has touched the hearts of many, not only because…Read More
Where Does the Love Go?
One of the reasons so many relationships don’t last is that we confuse “falling in love”—the temporary, emotional, hormone-infused high—with the act and art of loving, the sacred work of relationship. Additionally, our culture of immediate gratification and the “grass is greener” syndrome contribute to our jumping in and out of relationships, often prematurely. When in the throes of “falling in love,” especially during the honeymoon period, ego boundaries collapse and we feel a sense…Read More